The Most Powerful Things You Can Say To Your Kids
13. "You Worked Hard On That"
If you want your kid to develop a growth mindset, a term coined by Dr. Carol Dweck to describe students who believe that intelligence is not fixed, then the first thing you praise should not be how smart they are but how hard they tried. You want them to attribute success to hard work as opposed to natural ability. When children learn to value effort, motivation and achievement increase.