Expert Tips On Mindful Parenting (For Everything Motherhood Throws At You)
14. Watch What Happens
Pay attention to progress. Dr. Kuzirian shared, "When you start expressing your feelings like this, when we allow ourselves this freedom, not only do our children benefit from the modeling, but it decreases our reactivity, to perhaps go buy something we'll regret, eat something we'll regret or say something we'll regret. So start noticing this process for yourself. If you are modeling this, your child is more likely to follow suit. Be open and curious about your child's experience. As heartbreaking as it feels to hear that your child may be scared or sad, know that when they can share this with you, they are not alone with these feelings. Instead of giving into the urge to try to fix or solve your child's feelings state, which you can't do anyways, VALIDATE those feelings instead, 'You're worried right now.' Just a reminder that, as we can rarely actually fix another person's feelings state and when we attempt to we are actually telling them we cannot tolerate their feelings. They may stop expressing their negative feelings, but they don't stop experiencing them. It can take a lot of work to accept this."