Have Clear Expectations
If your expectations are made loud and clear, children will rise to them. Think about what you expect as far as behavior within your home and make visual reminders for chores and family rules. The same goes for out-of-house expectations. Try talking in the car before going out about what your expectations for behavior are. Simple things like: We expect walking feet and quiet voices at the library, or we expect hands to be held and no asking for purchases in a store.

When we catch our children meeting expectations, we can let them know that we see and that we appreciate it. Specific praise is so effective! Eventually, our expectations of our children become their own expectations of themselves.